Accepting Yourself As You Are

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When I took a break from blogging, I wrote down notes and questions to reflect on. I discovered one recurring problem I have is not accepting myself as I am. The deep truth is I don’t see myself through Jesus’ eyes.

I’m realizing how often I’m apologizing to myself or others in my thoughts about who I am or what I do or don’t do. I’m trying to come to grips with believing I have a makeup exactly as God wants, and I need to accept myself just the way I am.

I am an introvert. I think I was always introspective as a child already. I get nervous in crowds. Socializing wears me out, even more so with the weight of chronic illness. I am not a good conversationalist. I feel insecure and often get tongue-tied when it comes to what I really want to say. I don’t think of it until later what I should have asked or said. Afterwards I rehash what I said or didn’t say, over-analyze, and worry that I may have said something wrong. {It’s hard to know what comes from my personality and what resulted from abusive situations. But healing takes time, and at the bottom of it all, I’m still an introvert, and I have to realize that’s ok.}

I beat myself up for not being “better” at socializing. I compare myself with the social butterflies who can so easily talk with people, and I fall short. Why can’t I talk more easily like they can? Why do I always have to feel so nervous? Why won’t the words come?

I sometimes do better one on one, but even then I have to keep reminding myself to “Just be you, and look to Jesus.” And I do believe that when I can see myself through His eyes, I am less stressed. If I can see myself as His beloved the load becomes lighter.

Do you accept yourself as you are? Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert?

Here are some important truths we all need to remind ourselves of, no matter what personality we have:

  1. “I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made…” (Psalm 139:14a HCSB) We are marvelously made by God. He created each of us with unique personalities and gave each of us purposes in life that can never be carried out by any other human being. He doesn’t want any of us to act like someone else other than who we are or beat ourselves up for being who we are.
  2. “For your royal husband delights in your beauty; honor Him, for He is your lord.” (Psalm 45:11 NLT) We may think of ourselves as “ugly,” but God only sees us as beautiful. He even delights in us and cherishes us.
  3. “Even before He made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in His eyes.” (Ephesians 1:4 NLT) We already are pre-approved. We don’t have to do anything to make ourselves more special or enough in Jesus’ eyes. Through His grace, we are enough. We are special just to be loved by Him. That love will never ebb or flow according to what we do or don’t do.
  4. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old is passed away; behold, the new has come.” (2 Cor. 5:17) All our sins, mistakes, and old insecurities can fall away through Christ. He wants us to see ourselves as newly created in Him – accepted, redeemed, and loved unconditionally.
  5. “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” ( Romans 15:7) Jesus welcomes us, receives us, and accepts us just as we are, no matter what personality we have. He wants us to accept ourselves just as we are. And others just as they are.

“Beautiful”
by MercyMe

May we accept ourselves just as we are
and as marvelously made by God!

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Introvert or Extrovert: Embrace Who You Are

 

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So often I have felt there’s something wrong with me. Why do I get so worn out when I socialize? Health limitations don’t help, neither have past hurts, trust issues, and having been the target of slander. But still… there was something deeper. Something about how I was wired.

I know I am an introvert, but I beat myself up over it. I feel like those who socialize more can make more of a positive difference, so I must be failing. But it’s just not me… I still would rather be a small mouse in a corner – observing, listening, analyzing – than to be part of a social gathering. It’s not that I don’t like people. I love them dearly. It’s just that quiet, private spaces are necessary for resuscitation, revival, and renewal.

Last week I read Holley Gerth’s blog post – There’s Something You Should Know About Me. As she confided she is an introvert, a resonant chord twanged in my heart. Tears flowed as I realized it was an answer to prayer. God created this part of me, too, and I shouldn’t resist it. I should accept it as the me God created me to be. I should quit fighting this part of who I am. As Holley wrote, “We honor God when we honor who He created us to be.”

If you’re an introvert like me, it’s ok. Don’t fight against the way your nervous system is wired. I love how Holley explains it:

“Your nervous system is like a net that catches stimulation in your environment–things like noise, lights, words and facial expressions. 

If you’re an extrovert, you’ve got extra large holes in your net. You can handle a lot of stimulation before you get overwhelmed. If you’re in the middle of extrovert-introvert you’ve got average size holes. If you’re an introvert with a highly sensitive nervous system you catch everything. So you’re easily and quickly overstimulated.”
(7 Ways You Can Love an Introvert)

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Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

An introvert:

“Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to ‘recharge.'” (Introvert Definition and Characteristics)

An extrovert:

“Basically, an extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. This is the opposite of an introvert who is energized by being alone.

Extroverts tend to ‘fade’ when alone and can easily become bored without other people around. When given the chance, an extrovert will talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think.”
(What Is an Extrovert?)

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Extrovert or Introvert Quiz

Quiet Quiz: Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert?

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Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, that’s how God wired you, so embrace yourself as you are. Trying to be the opposite of how we’re wired is like swimming against a strong current. Exhausting with no progress forward. Just let God use you just as you are wherever you are. Let His love and grace flow through you and spill out to anoint others whether it’s one person at a time or many people at once. Let Him guide you through the gifts He has given you whether it’s through talking or writing. You are marvelously made whichever way it is, and you are enough.

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